My friend and colleague Hanneke Frese recently used this video in a senior leadership program she was running to show how rampant our inner critic can get.

In one of the most famous Dove films, Real Beauty Sketches explores the gap between how others perceive us and how we perceive ourselves. Each woman is the subject of two portraits drawn by FBI-trained forensic artist Gil Zamora: one based on her own description, and the other using a stranger’s. Which one do you think will be more flattering do you think?